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VegasMichael

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Why did you agree to a governmental/financial/religious contract that more than half the time doesn't work out AND favors the woman if it fails?
 

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If you like being alone, how other people feel won't change that, and that is fine.
I disagree. I'm in touch with other people's feelings. I have empathy. If someone could sway me to how great it is to be married and can back it up with facts I could change my mindset.
 

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I disagree. I'm in touch with other people's feelings. I have empathy. If someone could sway me to how great it is to be married and can back it up with facts I could change my mindset.

You said,
I do. I like being alone more times than not.

If you don't ever meet anyone you could see yourself getting old with, then whatever we say won't convince you to stay with someone when you'd rather be alone.
 

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22 years of marriage in a couple weeks. My wife truly is my better half. She is my best friend, and was long before we said "I do".

I remember standing before friends and family, saying my vows, and being terryfied. Looking back I cannot image what I would do without her.

From time to time I still officiate wedding ceremonies. I'm curious though. I refuse to perform a service without at least three months of premarital counseling. I ask a lot of questions that the couple must answer. However, the answers are not for me. I give them things to reflect upon on their own and together.

A joke went around for a while because I had a record for destroying engagements and relationships. My reply, "If you cannot survive three months of counseling together, your marriage will more than likely fail".

So far all of the marriages I was honored to officiate are still intact. That isn't to say there haven't been hard times. Hard times are going to happen.

I am not a fan of divorce, though I have counseled many through it. I have sat in courtrooms and listened to people I love tear one anther apart. On rare occasion I have even advised divorce. Divorce is generally not the answer though. Selfishness and pride is usually the reason, and you have to get out of the way to make it work. In marriage, and in life; everything is not about you.

I am still a guy though. I screw up daily. My wife has come to understand that there is no such creature as an adult male. We are just big children, and normally need a babysitter.

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Who cleans your dishes and makes food?
Aren’t you getting tired of humping pillows and fisting teddy bears?


You can start a new fitness craze.

Non lifting solo aerobics by Michael.
I sleep with four pillows but no teddy bears. Although I do have a legendary stuffed animal collection in my classroom. One of these days you'll realize the importance of cardio and conditioning. I mean after all you went to Bahston Cahllege.
 

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You said,


If you don't ever meet anyone you could see yourself getting old with, then whatever we say won't convince you to stay with someone when you'd rather be alone.
I'm not saying I won't ever meet someone who I wouldn't mind growing old with. I'm asking why did you get married if you merely both loved each other? What would change by inviting religion and Uncle Sam and money into the mix? Would your love stop if you didn't get hitched?
 

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22 years of marriage in a couple weeks. My wife truly is my better half. She is my best friend, and was long before we said "I do".

I remember standing before friends and family, saying my vows, and being terryfied. Looking back I cannot image what I would do without her.

From time to time I still officiate wedding ceremonies. I'm curious though. I refuse to perform a service without at least three months of premarital counseling. I ask a lot of questions that the couple must answer. However, the answers are not for me. I give them things to reflect upon on their own and together.

A joke went around for a while because I had a record for destroying engagements and relationships. My reply, "If you cannot survive three months of counseling together, your marriage will more than likely fail".

So far all of the marriages I was honored to officiate are still intact. That isn't to say there haven't been hard times. Hard times are going to happen.

I am not a fan of divorce, though I have counseled many through it. I have sat in courtrooms and listened to people I love tear one anther apart. On rare occasion I have even advised divorce. Divorce is generally not the answer though. Selfishness and pride is usually the reason, and you have to get out of the way to make it work. In marriage, and in life; everything is not about you.

I am still a guy though. I screw up daily. My wife has come to understand that there is no such creature as an adult male. We are just big children, and normally need a babysitter.

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So if you and her had stayed together and never married what would be different?
 

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I'm not saying I won't ever meet someone who I wouldn't mind growing old with. I'm asking why did you get married if you merely both loved each other? What would change by inviting religion and Uncle Sam and money into the mix? Would your love stop if you didn't get hitched?

I didn't really invite religion. It invited me, at age 31. My whole perspective changed.

I met my wife at church, after meeting 18 years' worth of "conquests" elsewhere, mostly bars.

As for the government, well, it is what it is. I have benefited from my marriage. Even financially. No one here will "talk you into" marriage.

You do it because you want to, and you don't do it because you want to.
 

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Because I am curious about people's decisions. If they answer honestly it may change my thoughts on the subject.

I honestly love your avatar pic.

And to answer your question, I just know my marriage is forever. 25 years and counting. You’ll know when the right one comes along. Just be honest with yourselves.
 

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