Are you ever just .... tired of being alive??

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Seeing how we live in the same terrible state, this time of year is very depressing. It’s cold out, dark when I go to work, dark when I get home.
Could be part of it, I know it makes my weeks seem longer.
 
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Sounds like you need some life changes. You're in a rut perhaps. I agree with Josh about new things and places and people. Maybe a vacation.

You mentioned that so many things weren't working out as planned. It made me think of a saying I heard years ago: "The secret to happiness is to have low expectations."

I realize that can't apply to all aspects of life, especially in the workplace, but my mindset when doing things is to just remain hopeful, and not believe everything's going to turn out perfectly. I also tend to not stray from my circles of competence. I'm no good with serious relationships so I steer clear of them. That girl at the end of the bar is a 10 and I'm about a 5 or 6 so I don't approach her.

My hobbies these days are simple and expensive, all of which have great chances of success. Reading, watching movies, exercising, drawing. Drawing relaxes me like nothing else.
 
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Ever been to a doctor?

Could be medical, i.e. your body / brain does not produce the hormones it should that contribute to happiness. Know what I mean? You could be fighing an 'impossible battle' to win naturally.
 
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I have for a few other reasons. Last year i had some shit going on, they suggested a shrink since there was nothing obvious wrong physically. It was on Zoom and the dude was foreign so i couldn't hardly understand him. Was also very judgemental and wouldn't let me finish answering his questions before interrupting.

bad matchup. I convinced my wife to go to therapy (to deal with her father's suicide) and its really helped her to grow from the traumatized girl she was, to a happy woman.

I would try another shrink, man. They do wonders. For real. And like @13COBRA said, I'm always down to chat or whatever. Helped / chatted with a few guys on this board (and others)
 

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Let me just say this and I don’t know if it’s related or not but something I learned was to get these toxic ass females out your life and you’re gonna feel better my man. That applies to all dudes. Don’t let these dumb females bring you down after all your hard work.
 

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Let me just say this and I don’t know if it’s related or not but something I learned was to get these toxic ass females out your life and you’re gonna feel better my man. That applies to all dudes. Don’t let these dumb females bring you down after all your hard work.
 
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bad matchup. I convinced my wife to go to therapy (to deal with her father's suicide) and its really helped her to grow from the traumatized girl she was, to a happy woman.

I would try another shrink, man. They do wonders. For real. And like @13COBRA said, I'm always down to chat or whatever. Helped / chatted with a few guys on this board (and others)
 
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Man id hate to think my expectations could get lower lol. Theres nothing i want anymore, other than to comfortably not have to work maybe.
But no expectations is not the same as low expectations. It's worrisome to me when you say there's nothing you want. Material-wise that's fine, but are you really saying there is nothing that makes you happy anymore?
 

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Much appreciated


Like I said, this was mostly to vent. I attached those two clips because it makes me feel somewhat better. Apparently even the rich feel the same way occasionally lol

100% man.

Comedian Bill Burr talks about it all the time, he says he sees a spinning ceiling fan and debates jumping into it. No real reason lol just like 'why not' type deal.
 

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But no expectations is not the same as low expectations. It's worrisome to me when you say there's nothing you want. Material-wise that's fine, but are you really saying there is nothing that makes you happy anymore?
 
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Do you have a social network? Family, friends? I'm not saying your suicidal or anything but I knew a guy who worked the phones at a suicide hotline and he said 90%+ of the people who called had no social network whatsoever.
 

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Yea thats something i knew would be coming for me eventually. Think ultimately, i have had the same feeling since i was six...cant accept that my best years are filled with work. If im lucky, ill be able to afford to die peacefully and not on the street
You definitely sound defeated and depressed. Not good things at all. I wish you nothing but the best.
 

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Sounds like you are comfortable being miserable.....like many people. People will stay in what they think is their "safe zone" or "comfort zone", but really, they are staying in a personal hell that feels impossible to escape. Step into uncertainty. Step into being uncomfortable. Sounds like you need some major changes in life. Keep in mind though, a "major" change can be something like a change of perception or something similar. That doesn't mean you need to cut your **** off and start identifying as something else....or maybe it does idk.

Take care of yourself, don't give up. There will be plenty of time to rest when your time comes. There is hope, and be open to the idea that you will eventually find your way. You never know what is around the corner.

EDIT: I also 100% agree with seeing a therapist. **** family, friends, and online bozos trying to help you with a major life problem. See someone who is trained to walk you through your own thoughts and feelings. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. You are clearly asking for some help, now go see someone who is trained to give it to you.
 

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