Are you ever just .... tired of being alive??

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Sounds like you are comfortable being miserable.....like many people. People will stay in what they think is their "safe zone" or "comfort zone", but really, they are staying in a personal hell that feels impossible to escape. Step into uncertainty. Step into being uncomfortable. Sounds like you need some major changes in life. Keep in mind though, a "major" change can be something like a change of perception or something similar. That doesn't mean you need to cut your **** off and start identifying as something else....or maybe it does idk.

Take care of yourself, don't give up. There will be plenty of time to rest when your time comes. There is hope, and be open to the idea that you will eventually find your way. You never know what is around the corner.
Do you have a social network? Family, friends? I'm not saying your suicidal or anything but I knew a guy who worked the phones at a suicide hotline and he said 90%+ of the people who called had no social network whatsoever.
 
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Ive felt this way awhile. Actually was so fed up a few years ago, i quit my job and moved without any real plan. It worked out for me as i found a job in the new area that paid triple what i made before. Buuut, i hate where i live now, cant deal with the congestion. Its to the point where i dont leave the house unless its for work.

I used to have social media but deleted all of it awhile back. Just the fakeness of even the people i knew well was too much to stomach

Move brudder.

Somewhere fresh.

Fresh start. Meet new people. Do new things.

I think you're just bored AF with your current 'scenery / routine'

+65000 on therapist though. It honestly 'couldnt hurt'
 

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Traveling, if can do it, is such a great thing. It will either make you appreciate what you have even more, or it will make you realize how caught-up in the rat race you are.

I totally get you on the stress/anxiety of living somewhere with congestion. I live in Long Beach, CA. We went to Maui a few months ago and we can't stop thinking about moving there. My heart felt at peace out there, and its no more expensive to live there than it is in CA where we are at. We hardly go out because its just a pain in the ass.
 

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Sorry to hear. There are some good suggestions in this thread. A new hobby, sport, or activity. Talk to a psychiatrist with a known-good reputation. Get your T levels checked. That can be a big problem for some men your age.

Life is hard work and doesnt get easier until you make/save enough money to retire.

My favorite car (my passion) has been down for over a year. Im sick over it, but thats how this hobby goes, my friend.

Maybe try and meet some new people. Take your child/children to church on Sunday and meet some new people.
 

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Ill just sum it up by saying i have a child i couldn't be prouder of...but that didn't go how i thought it would either.
Not exactly the best one to give any type of advice. I think alot of us are all jacked up in the world just trying to make it. We are involved so deeply in our own shit we can't smell anyone else's. Might be a good thing hell. Some people have their shit together and some are a mess. We all fall into the mix somewhere. Some of the tuffest shit I've been through and suceeded at is because if that shit stain can do it I can. For starters if nothing else you draw your strength from your post above. My wife and I couldn't even have kids, +1 to you. Do some soul searching and evaluate your life. If there is anything toxic in it, get rid of it. Alcohol, drugs, women...especially toxic ass women. Ask yourself how you can work on you. How's your health, career, relationship with your kid? Have good friends or toxic friends? Get back into your hobbies, get new ones. Find a shrink you can actually sit down and freaking talk to. Freaking zoom meeting for this is counter productive. But even this post is a step in the right direction. I made a post once on here when I left the service and didn't feel I was coping with Civilian life well. Got support and my ass handed to me. Odds are I needed both so don't expect anything other than honesty on here. Hope you find youself again. Life is worth living, just gotta see it. Happiness is there, just gotta want it bad enough and work for it.
 

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Op, seeing lots of edits and nothing but a couple videos on first post

As mentioned, get your T checked. The mental/emotional benefits of proper levels are more important than the physical ones. Just get a full CBC panel, you’d be surprised what you might find.

Someone else mentioned perception.

I’m guessing you have a car and a roof over your head if you’re posting on here. Shit ain’t that bad. There’s millions of people that have it worse for whatever reason, so remember to be grateful for the blessing that is life on this earth.

As an adult, you are 100% responsible for everything that happens to you. Shitty job? Your fault. Shitty wife? Your fault. Etc

Try and make sure you’re always moving ahead in life. Set some goals.

There were a few times in my teens when apparently my Dad thought I was acting defeated or down and he literally told me “quit being a pussy”.

It’s great advice and I’ve looked in the mirror and said them to myself when I was struggling following trials in life RE a sick child and divorce.



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Op, seeing lots of edits and nothing but a couple videos on first post

As mentioned, get your T checked. The mental/emotional benefits of proper levels are more important than the physical ones. Just get a full CBC panel, you’d be surprised what you might find.

Someone else mentioned perception.

I’m guessing you have a car and a roof over your head if you’re posting on here. Shit ain’t that bad. There’s millions of people that have it worse for whatever reason, so remember to be grateful for the blessing that is life on this earth.

As an adult, you are 100% responsible for everything that happens to you. Shitty job? Your fault. Shitty wife? Your fault. Etc

Try and make sure you’re always moving ahead in life. Set some goals.

There were a few times in my teens when apparently my Dad thought I was acting defeated or down and he literally told me “quit being a pussy”.

It’s great advice and I’ve looked in the mirror and said them to myself when I was struggling following trials in life RE a sick child and divorce.



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Yeah he did delete all his responses, as well as his original post. Hope he didn't think he was being weak or anything. Sometimes one needs some help from others. We're all different. Things affect people differently. What's painful for one is nothing to someone else and visa versa.
 

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Yeah he did delete all his responses, as well as his original post. Hope he didn't think he was being weak or anything. Sometimes one needs some help from others. We're all different. Things affect people differently. What's painful for one is nothing to someone else and visa versa.

Nothing weak about admitting or talking about a problem.

That’s the first step actually and sometimes the most difficult.


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Let me just say this and I don’t know if it’s related or not but something I learned was to get these toxic ass females out your life and you’re gonna feel better my man. That applies to all dudes. Don’t let these dumb females bring you down after all your hard work.

Unfortunately for some of us. Females are All we got.

I move to much so I don’t make many friends.. so when I cut out females… I’m alone in my own head
 

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Never give in. Being alive is a gift from the Creator (applies to any religion). There's an issue with suicide on my father's side. My father, his sister and his mother all committed suicide. I was on a phone with a half sister on my father side and she was talking about how she considered suicide. I told her don't be a damn cliché knowing the family history. I also told her that's the easy way out and a lame thought.

Fortunately my mother has a survival gene and alive and kicking at 82 even though she had many obstacles along the way. If you are healthy and able it is a crime to ever consider ending it prematurely.
 

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Nope. Just tired of stupid in society. Tired of control freaks dictating and tired of stupid ass Democrats/Liberals/Progressives/Leftist scumbags ruining the country I love.

Good luck figuring your situation out brother.
 

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I am not tired of being alive by any means. I am however in full blown mid life crisis mode because I am just over the mid point in my life due to genetics.

I am about to turn 39 and if I am lucky I'll see 65. Despite my efforts a cardiac event will take me out around that time. To say it puts a time crunch on me is an understatement.

I am now trying to prioritize what I want to do with the latter half of my life. I can't do it all so I have to do what I can.

With that said I have seen some serious low points in my life. Every time I was deep in the valley I have either found a way to crawl out or I've made a decision that set things in motion and unbeknownst to me at the moment started an upswing. Sometimes even when things don't look like they are going your way they actually are and you don't realize it for months or even years.

Keep your ****ing head up.
 
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bad matchup. I convinced my wife to go to therapy (to deal with her father's suicide) and its really helped her to grow from the traumatized girl she was, to a happy woman.

I would try another shrink, man. They do wonders. For real. And like @13COBRA said, I'm always down to chat or whatever. Helped / chatted with a few guys on this board (and others)

Good advice here. The first specialist you talk to will rarely be the one you stay with. It usually takes 3-4 tries before you find the right one.
 

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