OP you gotta let KR take a run at your wife. The kid might be ugly, but they'll live forever...
Wife's got baby fever. We both love/want kids and will hit a year of marriage in a few months. Both sets of future grandparents are approaching mid 60's, and both have a grand child (not ours). Also, we are in our late 20's. I'll be 30 next year. She's a very nurturing/loving woman and I am very comfortable with her being the mother of my kid(s). I just look at the cost of daycare/kids/all the things as car hobby crushers/stress inducers.
Asking SVTp Gods mostly for entertainment purposes. But I imagine someone in the bunch will provide sound advice.
amen to that brotherI always wanted a kid but wasn't sure i wanted my lifestyle changed. Finally in our mid 30s we had our agreed upon 1 and only kid (was desperately wanting a boy but had a girl). She getting close to 2 years old and she's changed my life and me for the better. Theres no one on this earth i love more and no one else I'd rather spend my time with than her. I say pull the trigger, you won't regret it.
Wife's got baby fever. We both love/want kids and will hit a year of marriage in a few months. Both sets of future grandparents are approaching mid 60's, and both have a grand child (not ours). Also, we are in our late 20's. I'll be 30 next year. She's a very nurturing/loving woman and I am very comfortable with her being the mother of my kid(s). I just look at the cost of daycare/kids/all the things as car hobby crushers/stress inducers.
Asking SVTp Gods mostly for entertainment purposes. But I imagine someone in the bunch will provide sound advice.
I just had a son 4 months ago. So far it's been fantastic. My wife is a teacher, so she has been off for several months.
I work 3rd shift, so I'm able to watch him in the afternoon once I wake up. My parents are both retired and live 5 min away and live to watch it. My wife and I do everything we want to do and life really hasn't changed much, bc my parents help so much.
If I didn't have my parents to help I couldn't imagine having a kid. If she's going to be a stay at home mom then your good, if not, it's going to be a rough ride.
If we didn't have help, my wife and I would probably move to somewhere tropical and enjoy life without kids. Massive burden without family.
daycare is more than our mortgage
Entirely up to you, and your old lady brotha.
I'm the same age (roughly) as you, and Tanya and I had the discussion a week ago, and we're both still out on kids. Matter of fact, I'm looking at getting snipped. I dont want them ever. Have never wanted kids, just not for me. I'd rather be the 'cool uncle that can do whatever he wants whenever he wants' lolol
My wife are tried and paid and tried and can't. It's nothing short of a miracle in my eyes and the most meaningful thing in life you could do. When I die, that's it. When you die you live on...do it.
Wife's got baby fever. We both love/want kids and will hit a year of marriage in a few months. Both sets of future grandparents are approaching mid 60's, and both have a grand child (not ours). Also, we are in our late 20's. I'll be 30 next year. She's a very nurturing/loving woman and I am very comfortable with her being the mother of my kid(s). I just look at the cost of daycare/kids/all the things as car hobby crushers/stress inducers.
Asking SVTp Gods mostly for entertainment purposes. But I imagine someone in the bunch will provide sound advice.
It's probably more of a desire to teach someone and to hopefully make the world a better place 1 person at a time.Couldn't have said it any better! I'm sure kids are fulfilling, the best thing to ever happen, etc... But, I'm also certain that they can be a complete drain. I absolutely enjoy having a life free from true responsibility and having the ability for the wife and I to go and do as we please. It's selfish to some, I get it, but it's a great life.
Sorry to hear of the troubles, I can't imagine how hard that would be to go through. The one part I never understood, or had any desire to fulfill, is to 'keep my name going.' I don't know what I'm missing, but I just don't seem to care.
Earlier tonight I was playing with Legos with my 7 and 3 year old while our 5 month old kicked around on the floor.
A few minutes ago I came back into my own room to sleep after nearly having to beat my 7 year old for screaming for ‘mom’ while in his bedroom. Woke up the 3 year old, who shares the bedroom, twice.
Whatever happens, don’t let your wife let them get away with bull shit games at bedtime.
Never in my life would I have expected to be fighting a 7 year old almoat EVERY NIGHT over bedtime and sleeping.
Also, don’t wait to get snipped after 2, because you’ll sneak in a third after scheduling the nut cut.