Sorry to hear, such a terrible shame to lose loved ones at a young age.
The tone of your post sounds like you aren't happy with the treatment she got...
The tone of your post sounds like you aren't happy with the treatment she got...
I lost my mom, she was just 58 and my only parent.
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Man I'm sorry to hear that. Hang in there.
Yeah man.. Hang in there as well.
Prayers sent you you and your family in this time of sorrow. She's in a better place and watching over you I'm sure.
Prayers sent you you and your family in this time of sorrow. She's in a better place and watching over you I'm sure.
My condolences, what you’re going through must be very difficult. I've had similar experiences with both parents. I still feel them in my heart but the pain is gone. It will get better.
Thanks. Yes I've made my peace with it and like you, my dad was like Superman growing up. Sucks to see them like that and is a startling reminder of reality.
Thanks. Unfortunately he was basically in a coma at the end, but I still like to think that he could hear me.
It was very heartbreaking to hear your story. I'm so very sorry that you lost your mom. She was so young. You were able to be strong for your mom when she needed it the most. I can only imagine how difficult those last days were for you. She is at peace now. You obviously loved your mom very much and you were very close to each other.
My condolences, RIP. I went through something very similar this last year. You'll see her again.
Stay strong buddy, praying for you and your sister.
Stay strong buddy, praying for you and your sister.
Sorry for your loss man, your story was a sad one for sure.
I have taken care of many people in this situation and in my experience, people have some reaction to their closest family members...even in a coma. The sound of your children's voice is such a significant part of you that it relaxes people. Often to the point of being ok with passing and letting go. It isn't scientific, but I have seen more than enough evidence to say with confidence that she heard you and it gave her peace.
I am very sorry about the loss of you mom. My prayers are for you to stay strong during this rough time.
-Brian
-Brian
I am sorry for your loss. May she rest in peace!
I've been dealing with this for about two weeks now, lost her early Tuesday morning on the 23rd. It was not expected at all. She had been having trouble keeping food down since November and the Dr's took their sweet time sending her to a specialist. They ran a scope though her GI tract in early Feb. everything looked fine (there was some diverticulitis which is normal).
This was her 3rd time in the hospital in as many weeks because she'd get dehydrated and her potassium and sodium levels would drop. Took her in on Friday and by sunday she was wanting a razor and pj's. Something happened monday morning, she ended up falling and was moved to ICU. Her blood pressure dropped and they administered meds to get her pressure back up. I got there a bit after 4 and now her Potassium and other electrolytes are way too high and they are looking at doing emergency dialysis, just before they started her levels started coming down as the got a central line in her and her kidneys started filtering. between each step I'm signing forms like i'm applying for top secret security clearance. The ICU nurse noticed that her breathing was getting shallow and she had to be intubated. At the same time she noticed her abdomen was becoming descended and there was a lot of crap getting sucked from her. They decided that they needed to do emergency exploratory surgery at 2 am. They suspected a blockage or some small problem. The Surgeon came out to me at ~3am and said her "entire" bowel was dead, there was nothing they could do.
They took her back to her icu room and I remember her telling me I don't ever want to be hooked up to machines. So I asked that they remove it.
My little sister lives in Denver, I called her told her to talk to mom (even though she wasn't responsive) and I sat next to my mom, the lady who raised two kids on her own and was the toughest person I know, and spent the next 40 -60 minutes telling her it was ok. It was time for her to go, anything I could tell her to put her soul at ease.
I kept it up until she slipped away around 5:30 tues morning. I stayed with her for over an hour so friends and family that had showed up could get their peace because as soon as I left they wouldn't allow anyone else to see her. I had to name a funeral home before I could leave as well. As the sun started to rise tuesday morning I left, went home and showered and tried to sleep.
I've made it through the funeral a week ago sat, and I got her ashes Friday evening. She was so claustrophobic she did not want to be in a box. I'm still not sleeping and unfortunately she did not have a will so I am having to go through all sorts of legal hoops trying to settle her estate, hoping that I'll be able to keep the house and take care of her 2 little dogs that were so loyal. You just never expect to lose your only parent at 32, and we were very close, we even worked at the same company.
Just make sure to tell the ones that are special to you that you love them every chance you get. And make sure your affairs are in order for your loved ones, god forbid.
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Damn. I hate to read this. I lost my dad similarly in 2009, when he was 56. He had been having stomach issues and went to multiple doctors, who all said he was having acid reflux. He finally went to a gastroenterologist who scheduled him for a colonoscopy one month out. The night after he went to the gastro dr, he had to be taken to the hospital by ambulance. They did an MRI which showed a mass in his colon and his colon perforated. They did surgery and removed most of his colon, but he was septic. About three hours after he got out of surgery, his body started shutting down and went into cardiac arrest. They did CPR for 45 minutes, until I told them to stop.
We found out he had stage 4 colon cancer and must have had it for a long time. He worked until the day before he died. He didn't know he had cancer. If he would have had a colonoscopy before, it would have been caught.
I'm sorry for your loss.
So sorry to hear about the loss of your Mother. May God bless your family.
Sorry for your loss.
I'm caught between two places. Like sometimes I wonder what it would be like to have that sort of relationship with a parent to want to be there and to be sad.
In one thought I'm like it would truly suck to feel that sort of loss, but at the same time I feel like it would be good to have that sort of connection to feel that loss.
I likely wont be there when either of my parents die.. Likely wont go to any funeral or anything. Not that I hate my parents or anything. My parents were the less than ideal sort of parents. So if either of them died it to me would be like losing a facebook friend. not a parent
Im sorry for your loss. I couldnt even fathom the feeling you are having.
I'm caught between two places. Like sometimes I wonder what it would be like to have that sort of relationship with a parent to want to be there and to be sad.
In one thought I'm like it would truly suck to feel that sort of loss, but at the same time I feel like it would be good to have that sort of connection to feel that loss.
I likely wont be there when either of my parents die.. Likely wont go to any funeral or anything. Not that I hate my parents or anything. My parents were the less than ideal sort of parents. So if either of them died it to me would be like losing a facebook friend. not a parent
Im sorry for your loss. I couldnt even fathom the feeling you are having.
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