I lost my mom, she was just 58 and my only parent.

[L8APEX]

Thanks for all the kind words and prayers, I'm so fortunate to of had her as my mom, I just hate that my nephews won't get spoiled by her. She worked hard her entire life and was ready to start coasting a bit, but as I keep telling myself she was such a good person she just did not have to wait a lifetime to go to heaven. I can emphasize with all of you who have lost parents now, especially both because she was my parent. My dad got hooked on coke and was a sick person, she took us out and raised my sister and I on nothing. Never any assistance from the government. That was never an option for her. She wanted my sister and I to appreciate hard work, and to help others. I learned it well.
I'm not mad, more dissapointed by our family physician who we have gone to for decades. It was like pulling teeth to get specialist referrals. It started in late October/early November and she got to see a specialist a week before she ultimately died. And what happened that Monday in the hospital. I still have no answers as to what killed her gut so quickly. I'm mostly concerned if it was something genetic that my sister or her kids might face. If nothing else rule that out...

Now I'm faced with the legal challenges of her not having a will, I found out the bank froze her assets today so I'll have to start making her house payments , insurance and other bills until I get granted administrator of the estate. Which requires lawyers and death certificates that I'm still waiting on. Without them I cannot do anything.
I just hope I can keep the house, I can still feel her there and it puts me and many of her friends at ease. An estate sale would just tear me apart.

 

[FORDSVTPARTS]

Sorry for your loss....I lost my dad at 59. Totally unexpected. Hang in there man!

Don't be afraid to reach out for help as far as support groups. It helped my mom in a big way.

 

[STAMPEDE3]

Sorry for your loss man.
I am fortunate to still have both mine although we almost lost dad. Times like this I realize how lucky I am.

My wife on the other hand lost both hers, both at 59. She is still hurting and that was in 1999 and 2006.
Keep your head up and lean on your friends. They will be there.

And we are always here if you need to vent or anything.

 

[HooperWest]

Sorry for your loss.

Your Mom sound like a woman with real perseverance and resolve, who has raised a caring Son, that's a great legacy.

Stay strong and may your Mom R.I.P.

 

[COOL COBRA]

Man this is tough to hear. It sounds like she raised a level headed son.
Both my folks are up in age & I'm dreading the day that it happens.
Stay strong.

 

[Fox-4]

Thanks for all the kind words and prayers, I'm so fortunate to of had her as my mom, I just hate that my nephews won't get spoiled by her. She worked hard her entire life and was ready to start coasting a bit, but as I keep telling myself she was such a good person she just did not have to wait a lifetime to go to heaven. I can emphasize with all of you who have lost parents now, especially both because she was my parent. My dad got hooked on coke and was a sick person, she took us out and raised my sister and I on nothing. Never any assistance from the government. That was never an option for her. She wanted my sister and I to appreciate hard work, and to help others. I learned it well.
I'm not mad, more dissapointed by our family physician who we have gone to for decades. It was like pulling teeth to get specialist referrals. It started in late October/early November and she got to see a specialist a week before she ultimately died. And what happened that Monday in the hospital. I still have no answers as to what killed her gut so quickly. I'm mostly concerned if it was something genetic that my sister or her kids might face. If nothing else rule that out...

Now I'm faced with the legal challenges of her not having a will, I found out the bank froze her assets today so I'll have to start making her house payments , insurance and other bills until I get granted administrator of the estate. Which requires lawyers and death certificates that I'm still waiting on. Without them I cannot do anything.
I just hope I can keep the house, I can still feel her there and it puts me and many of her friends at ease. An estate sale would just tear me apart.

Hey man, absolutely sorry for your lost. I wish you the best in getting the estate sorted out.

 

[_Snake_]

My deepest sympathies on your loss as I can't even imagine what you're dealing with. It's obvious she was a great Mom and raised you right. Please know we'll keep you in our prayers.

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[VerySneaky]

I am sorry for your loss. The day we lose our mom's is a day we all dread. Remember her good deeds and celebrate her life.

 

[Mentos]

I'm very sorry for your loss.

 

[MNCobra]

very sorry for your loss OP...hope things get better in the future...

 

[13COBRA]

Sending thoughts and prayers your way.

 

[greenscobie86]

Sorry to hear of this OP. My deepest condolences.

 

[straightliner1]

I hate to hear stories like this, yet I know they happen thousands of times daily. My Father passed away in November 2014, from a massive heart attack while he was tinkering on his hot rod. Mom found him face down in the garage no more than 20 minutes after it happened. There was nothing she, or the medics could do. My Mother has never been the same since. I understand where you're coming from OP, it does get easier. The pain will never go away but it will be more tolerable. I'm heartbroken to hear you lost your pillar of strength.

 

[ssssnake]

You have my sincere sympathy, Jason. My mom passed away when she was 59, and it was like I lost my soul. No one loves you like your mother. It's been 44 years since she died, and I still think of her every day. I pray for comfort for you and that everything else you're going through will work out. God bless.

 

[allister]

Sorry to hear your story and everything you had to go through. I lost my grandmother, she was my best friend, when I was a teenager and I felt like it was the time of my life when I needed her the most. It helps to focus on the best memories, as you will never have treasured them more than you do now. I hope you find comfort in knowing she's in no more pain. She was so lucky to have someone like you there for her.

 

[04SVT_COBRA]

Very sorry to hear about your loss, that is devastating. I lost my mom last September to cancer (54 years old) a few months after we discovered it, and also lost my grandmother (my mom's mother) a couple months before that. We were all im my moms room on a beautiful Sunday morning when she passed. That image is one that will be forever burned in my head. She was such a strong stubborn women who NEVER asked or even wanted help, so to see her in the condition she was in was so hard. I watched as she took her last breath and it just hasn't felt the same since. I know that deep empty pain you feel right now. That pain where it just feels like a giant void in the middle of your chest. I luckily still have my dad (73 years old), so I can only imagine how you must be feeling. I am 25 and still lived at home and that obviously makes it even worse because I live in a house that is 100% decorated by her. We still have food in our pantry that she bought, and daily I realise things she did for us that nobody every gave her credit for. I used to look back at last year and say "That was the worst year of my life, by far", but now I look back and say "That was the most challenging year of my life, by far". Sadly, there is nothing we can do to change the past or bring loved ones back. We can only remember the good times we had, and work to better the relationships that we still have. I put on about 40 pounds of fat since my mom got sick last year and my bad habbits got worse after she passed. I stopped focusing on what I was trying to accomplish (day trading) and I let myself go both physically and emotionally. Take your time to mourn, but don't let that process make a negative impact on what you need to accomplish in life. I look back at last year now and I know that pain has made me such a better person for having reflected deeply upon myself and my beliefs which made me change many things about myself and how I view and handle things. I always thought I would have more time to foster a better relationship with my mom, but I never really got that chance, and that is one regret that hurts me deeply. There is nothing I can do now but make sure I don't make that same mistake with the people I am still lucky enough to have around me. Again, I am deeply sorry for your loss, but just know that she is in peace now and if she is somewhere looking down, she would be happy to see you improve from a horrible time in your life.

 

[Commbubba19]

As others have said, sorry for you loss and what you're going through.

I lost my Dad last June. He was the same age. Unfortunately I had to find him the hard way. I hadn't heard from him in a few days and he wasn't answering his phone. Went to the house and the TV was on but I couldn't see anything else. Had to break in and found him in the bedroom, face down on the floor cold as ice. Coroner said he had a heart attack likely late morning/early afternoon.

I kept telling him to take better care of his health. He knew he had heart issues but wouldn't do anything about it. I still have boxes of his stuff I have to go through. I will say it does get better with time and i'm grateful that my mother is still alive. Be strong and try and remember the good times. Keep her memory alive, if you do, she will always be with you.

 

[xblitzkriegx]

i cannot imagine the pain you're going through. i can only offer my condolences.

 

[Booky]

Sorry for you loss, my deepest condolences.

 

[Blown 89]

Sorry to hear that man. I've seen some terrible stuff in my life but the two weeks at my mom's bedside while she was dying still haunts me. She was young too.