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Need some insight from part time fathers ;)
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<blockquote data-quote="kirks5oh" data-source="post: 15538990" data-attributes="member: 23235"><p>+1000</p><p></p><p> Smartest thing I ever did was to go for 50/50 as soon as I filed for divorce. You get used to balancing career and kids. So many people do it these days you just have to make it work. Especially in your case if the other half sucks, that's all the more reason for you to be involved as much as you can in the kids' lives. Don't come back with "I don't have the time, or my career is too busy". I was able to balance my extremely busy surgical practice with 50% custody of my 3 kids. I have them for a week at a time, which means on my off week I work a little harder and play a lot harder. That's when I travel, etc. </p><p></p><p> Whatever custody you get from the start is likely how it's going to be long term in most cases. Sure, there are exceptions, but by and large, the man is usually unsuccessful in getting more custody barring any serious ****ups on her part. You can always choose less custody if you decide being a dad is not for you---but to be truthful, you've already decided, and you should have figured that out before having kids. </p><p></p><p></p><p> Choose anything less than 50/50 and you're not a true father. It's your choice in this situation, as you've put it. You can choose the arrangement, and you're choosing to be in their lives less than 50%. Your kids will end up calling your exes new boyfriend "dad", and when you pick them up, know they will miss him while they're at your house. Have some pride. Parenting has been THE most gratifying accomplishment in my life to this point</p><p></p><p> And you can find another relationship and be happy. I have, and she has 2 kids that are amazing as well.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="kirks5oh, post: 15538990, member: 23235"] +1000 Smartest thing I ever did was to go for 50/50 as soon as I filed for divorce. You get used to balancing career and kids. So many people do it these days you just have to make it work. Especially in your case if the other half sucks, that's all the more reason for you to be involved as much as you can in the kids' lives. Don't come back with "I don't have the time, or my career is too busy". I was able to balance my extremely busy surgical practice with 50% custody of my 3 kids. I have them for a week at a time, which means on my off week I work a little harder and play a lot harder. That's when I travel, etc. Whatever custody you get from the start is likely how it's going to be long term in most cases. Sure, there are exceptions, but by and large, the man is usually unsuccessful in getting more custody barring any serious ****ups on her part. You can always choose less custody if you decide being a dad is not for you---but to be truthful, you've already decided, and you should have figured that out before having kids. Choose anything less than 50/50 and you're not a true father. It's your choice in this situation, as you've put it. You can choose the arrangement, and you're choosing to be in their lives less than 50%. Your kids will end up calling your exes new boyfriend "dad", and when you pick them up, know they will miss him while they're at your house. Have some pride. Parenting has been THE most gratifying accomplishment in my life to this point And you can find another relationship and be happy. I have, and she has 2 kids that are amazing as well. [/QUOTE]
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