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<blockquote data-quote="FJohnny" data-source="post: 16252698" data-attributes="member: 191643"><p>Ha ha, good question.</p><p></p><p>First, congrats on having the smarts and maturity to ask this. I get that it's a little tongue in cheek doing it here but it means you are thinking about it the right way. It's a big move and deserves to be fully considered.</p><p></p><p>Don't do it for the grandparents. At mid 60's, they definitely didn't. It's not a competition with siblings. Hopefully your wife will get this. You guys are still in the honeymoon phase. I'm hoping you dated extensively before this so you can feel secure in knowing who she really is.</p><p></p><p>Glad you realize that it is life changing. Time and money stresses will be great and to be a good parent means you will definitely be changing some of your routine. Not all of it, though. You can still spend time on yourself and your hobbies, just a bit less. Be efficient with it and usually it works out okay.</p><p></p><p>Money problems are the biggest marriage killer. You are way ahead of most in considering this. So many just go for it. Imagine having to borrow from/live with relatives because of setbacks that were not in their plans. Everyone will experience changing life situations and it's always best to know that you can afford to weather storms before running into one.</p><p></p><p>As to the loss of hobbies and time, some people find that watching their kids grow, succeed and fail, and become people and friends that they can be completely proud of will at least in some small way compensate for the inevitable losses/changes. Sure did for me. Like someone else said, it's not forever. It's just a little delayed gratification. (Sometimes that's the best kind?)</p><p></p><p>Good luck with your decision. The fact that you are a forward thinker makes me believe you will make the correct one for you. Sorry for not guessing on your poll. I don't think I know you or your situation well enough to make the call. I take internet polls VERY seriously and would hate to screw it up!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="FJohnny, post: 16252698, member: 191643"] Ha ha, good question. First, congrats on having the smarts and maturity to ask this. I get that it's a little tongue in cheek doing it here but it means you are thinking about it the right way. It's a big move and deserves to be fully considered. Don't do it for the grandparents. At mid 60's, they definitely didn't. It's not a competition with siblings. Hopefully your wife will get this. You guys are still in the honeymoon phase. I'm hoping you dated extensively before this so you can feel secure in knowing who she really is. Glad you realize that it is life changing. Time and money stresses will be great and to be a good parent means you will definitely be changing some of your routine. Not all of it, though. You can still spend time on yourself and your hobbies, just a bit less. Be efficient with it and usually it works out okay. Money problems are the biggest marriage killer. You are way ahead of most in considering this. So many just go for it. Imagine having to borrow from/live with relatives because of setbacks that were not in their plans. Everyone will experience changing life situations and it's always best to know that you can afford to weather storms before running into one. As to the loss of hobbies and time, some people find that watching their kids grow, succeed and fail, and become people and friends that they can be completely proud of will at least in some small way compensate for the inevitable losses/changes. Sure did for me. Like someone else said, it's not forever. It's just a little delayed gratification. (Sometimes that's the best kind?) Good luck with your decision. The fact that you are a forward thinker makes me believe you will make the correct one for you. Sorry for not guessing on your poll. I don't think I know you or your situation well enough to make the call. I take internet polls VERY seriously and would hate to screw it up! [/QUOTE]
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