The dealer would be the only option for a harness. Here is the wiring diagram for the O2's. I will look to see if I can find the harness info.
Thank you for the diagram!! Very helpful. And I believe you are correct, the dealer is the only option here for the harness.
I have a question for the OP
If you put her back to stock, have you datalogged her running stock? I ask because you keep referring back to the on board AFR gauge, what if that system itself is stuck and reading wrong?
I had the same logic as you, but after datalogging it revealed that the O2 was not responding in Bank 1.