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Married Life - What would you do - Advice
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<blockquote data-quote="luker669" data-source="post: 16113525" data-attributes="member: 185728"><p>My take on this and unfortunately I’ve been married 3 times.</p><p>Quick run down</p><p>1st marriage I was a drunken ass. </p><p>She was a nice girl and it was mostly my fault it didn’t work.</p><p>2nd marriage I only got married because she got pregnant and I wanted to be part of my son’s life. I lived in Canada she lived in Texas and to move to the US to be with my son marriage was the easiest way. I knew pretty quickly it wasn’t going to last. I stuck it out for 8yrs and when I caught her cheating I ran out the front door and never looked back.</p><p>3 wife is a great but a few things that may help you.</p><p>1st off, I told her I wasn’t going to get married again but after 5 years she started pushing for it. I finally gave in but told her this was for her cause I don’t need to be married to be happy. </p><p>So she likes to drink some but after 2-3 beers her character changes.</p><p>When dating </p><p>We had many arguments about it and told her we are done </p><p>So after many promises we got back together this happening more than once.</p><p>She finally stop but after a year of being married she started having some drinks again. Anyway it got to the point she was sneaking alcohol in and drinking without me seeing.</p><p>So about a month ago it got bad and I was 99% done, I took her off all my account took my credit cards back. </p><p>I really do love her so she got another chance.</p><p>Point in all this is, does your character change after x amounts of drinks and maybe after 2 your wife is like if I can get him to stop now all will be good.</p><p>I’m sure your wife married you for sober you, not buzzed you.</p><p>Kid scenario both of you the plan was not to have any, just because you changed your mind you can’t expect her to. </p><p>Trust me on this 100% a child is going to cause stress in the marriage and if you are already on rocky ground it won’t be good. </p><p>If you both love each other, work on marriage first maybe compromise you will stop drinking if you both can agree on having a child.</p><p>If you can’t stop drinking for a child then you most not want one very badly or compromise and not drink if she will help you with your family.</p><p>Marriage is definitely a compromise just don’t compromise so much you loose who you are! </p><p>Remember if your not happy with yourself no one can make you happy! </p><p>Also from what you say if you have a child you most likely will be the primary care giver. I was with my son and it was tuff but worth it. </p><p>PS I never wanted a child but sure am happy I had my son. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Sent from my iPhone using svtperformance.com</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="luker669, post: 16113525, member: 185728"] My take on this and unfortunately I’ve been married 3 times. Quick run down 1st marriage I was a drunken ass. She was a nice girl and it was mostly my fault it didn’t work. 2nd marriage I only got married because she got pregnant and I wanted to be part of my son’s life. I lived in Canada she lived in Texas and to move to the US to be with my son marriage was the easiest way. I knew pretty quickly it wasn’t going to last. I stuck it out for 8yrs and when I caught her cheating I ran out the front door and never looked back. 3 wife is a great but a few things that may help you. 1st off, I told her I wasn’t going to get married again but after 5 years she started pushing for it. I finally gave in but told her this was for her cause I don’t need to be married to be happy. So she likes to drink some but after 2-3 beers her character changes. When dating We had many arguments about it and told her we are done So after many promises we got back together this happening more than once. She finally stop but after a year of being married she started having some drinks again. Anyway it got to the point she was sneaking alcohol in and drinking without me seeing. So about a month ago it got bad and I was 99% done, I took her off all my account took my credit cards back. I really do love her so she got another chance. Point in all this is, does your character change after x amounts of drinks and maybe after 2 your wife is like if I can get him to stop now all will be good. I’m sure your wife married you for sober you, not buzzed you. Kid scenario both of you the plan was not to have any, just because you changed your mind you can’t expect her to. Trust me on this 100% a child is going to cause stress in the marriage and if you are already on rocky ground it won’t be good. If you both love each other, work on marriage first maybe compromise you will stop drinking if you both can agree on having a child. If you can’t stop drinking for a child then you most not want one very badly or compromise and not drink if she will help you with your family. Marriage is definitely a compromise just don’t compromise so much you loose who you are! Remember if your not happy with yourself no one can make you happy! Also from what you say if you have a child you most likely will be the primary care giver. I was with my son and it was tuff but worth it. PS I never wanted a child but sure am happy I had my son. Sent from my iPhone using svtperformance.com [/QUOTE]
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