So yeah it kinda sucks right now. We've been together for 5 years, lived together for 4 1/2, I'm 25, her 23. She started going to school for nursing, but we haven't had the money to get her back in, she hasn't been in school for 2+ years. I pay too many bills to pay for her, she probably could've saved through out a semester to pay for it but it would leave her broke all the time. We've been waiting for me to get my new job after my apprenticeship to pay for her. Well anyway, her friend got her in at a bar and she is bartending/serving. She's been working there for 3-4 months and I'm starting to see her turn into a partying type of girl. She was always humble and that's one of the things I loved about her. I've gotten switched to swing shift (3 nights/2 days)at my building while we're doing some work that has to be done off hours. We've been fighting a lot recently, a lot for stuff that she's doing, and I know that we have a lot of stress on our relationship because of our hours.
We ended up arguing on Sunday (texting when I was at work) and I got mad and said I'm going to go stay by my dad. She text me 3 hours later saying she was going to go out to eat with her friend Tanya. So I get out of work an hour later (4 PM) and am aggravated so I don't call her like I usually do, usually if I don't call by 4:15 she's calling me to make sure everything is ok. No call. I get home and stick around for a bit and she doesn't come back, which is getting me a little more aggravated. So i get my dog and decide to go fishing for a bit just to clear my head and calm down. I texted her asking where my suitcase is and she doesn't respond. I was only going to stay by my dads for a night or 2 just so both of us can calm down. I get home around 7 and she's not there. So I say F it and call up my buddy to see what he's doing. He's by my other buddies, having a few beers and playing bean bags and tells me to come by. So as I'm getting changed she comes in and I tell her I'm going out. Later on when I come home she wasn't around. Never came home that night, I assume she went to Tanya's.
So I get up Monday and go to work, I come home and see that she's taken a lot of her clothes from the apt, and took some wine glasses I had over my fridge, that I had gotten from work. I didn't talk to her until Wednesday. I called her and talked to her for like an hour and said I was sorry and what not. She tells me she wants space, she want's to straighten herself out, feels bad because she isn't doing anything with her life, says she still wants to be together but just can't talk to me right now. Over the past week I try talking to her just to find out what is going on and she's giving me responses like I can talk now, when I ask why, she says because I said so. Or she just tries to argue with me.
She stopped by Saturday, and I pretty much begged her to come back home without getting on my hands and knees. She acted real cold hearted and left. This whole week it's been giving me a feeling that she has another guy, but IDK for sure. She also deactivated her facebook 2 weeks ago out of the blue. I've said to her if you got someone else just tell me so I'm not being strung along, I'd rather know. She just tells me no.
I go to a sports bar with my buddy for the game Sunday. I see my buddy John and Tanya. They own the condo where Liz (my gf) is staying. I talk to Tanya for quite a while about what is going on, and she says that she thinks she just needs space and that she doesn't think she has someone else, but IDK if I should believe her.
Well yesterday (a week since she's been gone) I text her and said just level with me and tell me what's happening and I don't want to be kept in the dark. She tries to argue with me when I ask her and says she's already told me and to leave her alone. I tell her I don't know what to do and that it's been a week, normally we'll fight a bit, I'll leave and calm down, then she'll start texting and calling saying she's sorry, this time it's the opposite and it's never been like this, which got me feeling weird. Then she tells me that she heard I was talking shit about her last night and I was like WTF? I did the complete opposite so I call Tanya out on it and she texted me the texts she sent Liz. So I ask Liz who said I was talking shit and she said no one I misunderstood. All Tanya said was she ran into me when she was out and that I had a lot to say. Liz text her back saying she doesn't care what I had to say. Well Liz ends up saying it's over and I ask her if it's what she really wants. She tells me, you can't leave me alone for a f***ing day so yes. I didn't talk to her for 3 days at first then all day Sunday. I tell her to just come pick up her stuff and give me her key. She says she'll be by after work, but never comes by last night.
The past 2-3 weeks she's been blowing all kinds of money, new ugg boots, new cell phone, clothes, new purse. Like $1000 on just stuff she don't need. She tells me that she wants to move out and us live seperate and that she thinks it would help us (told me this 2 weeks ago). She just started making good money working at this bar, before would work as a CNA helping old people for like 20 hours a week, so never really had money.
My problem that I know of is I get a thought in my head then start dissecting it and the way things could be and try to figure people out. IDK if she is just being hood rich and not thinking right because of the money, has another guy and is keeping me on the back burner just in case, really is actually trying to help herself (I guess she paid off one of her credit cards this week that she was behind on), or just wants things to be done. IDK if I should just hang out and not talk to her, let her start to miss me and come crawling back, just have fun for a while and not worry about her, if I should not hook up with another girl if the situation comes up, or what I should do. Half the people I've talked to about it said to just hang out, not talk to her and let her miss me, and she'll be back. The other half tells me to go out and get laid.
The thing is I really do love this girl. I was actually planning on getting her a ring when I got my new job and can support us better. What should I think about her not coming to get her stuff last night? She wants to come back at some point/ she's looking for free storage? All it really is, is just some clothes, snowboard, spare key for her car, pictures,stuff like that. Saturday she took her scrapbook (which has tons of pics of us) and her camera (same thing). Tanya also said that she's sleeping with this pink teddy bear I won her at a carnival 5 years ago. Also the last text she sent me yesterday was I will always love you. I never responded. IDK what to make of this whole situation. Also she moved here from NJ for me (we met in school, she was going to school for nursing before she moved here, and since has stopped because of money) all she has is her clothes and car. I own everything in our apt so with out me all she has is Tanya's couch. I also feel that she was the one that walked out on me and my dog, which I like he's a kid.What do you think? sorry for the long read/rant.
We ended up arguing on Sunday (texting when I was at work) and I got mad and said I'm going to go stay by my dad. She text me 3 hours later saying she was going to go out to eat with her friend Tanya. So I get out of work an hour later (4 PM) and am aggravated so I don't call her like I usually do, usually if I don't call by 4:15 she's calling me to make sure everything is ok. No call. I get home and stick around for a bit and she doesn't come back, which is getting me a little more aggravated. So i get my dog and decide to go fishing for a bit just to clear my head and calm down. I texted her asking where my suitcase is and she doesn't respond. I was only going to stay by my dads for a night or 2 just so both of us can calm down. I get home around 7 and she's not there. So I say F it and call up my buddy to see what he's doing. He's by my other buddies, having a few beers and playing bean bags and tells me to come by. So as I'm getting changed she comes in and I tell her I'm going out. Later on when I come home she wasn't around. Never came home that night, I assume she went to Tanya's.
So I get up Monday and go to work, I come home and see that she's taken a lot of her clothes from the apt, and took some wine glasses I had over my fridge, that I had gotten from work. I didn't talk to her until Wednesday. I called her and talked to her for like an hour and said I was sorry and what not. She tells me she wants space, she want's to straighten herself out, feels bad because she isn't doing anything with her life, says she still wants to be together but just can't talk to me right now. Over the past week I try talking to her just to find out what is going on and she's giving me responses like I can talk now, when I ask why, she says because I said so. Or she just tries to argue with me.
She stopped by Saturday, and I pretty much begged her to come back home without getting on my hands and knees. She acted real cold hearted and left. This whole week it's been giving me a feeling that she has another guy, but IDK for sure. She also deactivated her facebook 2 weeks ago out of the blue. I've said to her if you got someone else just tell me so I'm not being strung along, I'd rather know. She just tells me no.
I go to a sports bar with my buddy for the game Sunday. I see my buddy John and Tanya. They own the condo where Liz (my gf) is staying. I talk to Tanya for quite a while about what is going on, and she says that she thinks she just needs space and that she doesn't think she has someone else, but IDK if I should believe her.
Well yesterday (a week since she's been gone) I text her and said just level with me and tell me what's happening and I don't want to be kept in the dark. She tries to argue with me when I ask her and says she's already told me and to leave her alone. I tell her I don't know what to do and that it's been a week, normally we'll fight a bit, I'll leave and calm down, then she'll start texting and calling saying she's sorry, this time it's the opposite and it's never been like this, which got me feeling weird. Then she tells me that she heard I was talking shit about her last night and I was like WTF? I did the complete opposite so I call Tanya out on it and she texted me the texts she sent Liz. So I ask Liz who said I was talking shit and she said no one I misunderstood. All Tanya said was she ran into me when she was out and that I had a lot to say. Liz text her back saying she doesn't care what I had to say. Well Liz ends up saying it's over and I ask her if it's what she really wants. She tells me, you can't leave me alone for a f***ing day so yes. I didn't talk to her for 3 days at first then all day Sunday. I tell her to just come pick up her stuff and give me her key. She says she'll be by after work, but never comes by last night.
The past 2-3 weeks she's been blowing all kinds of money, new ugg boots, new cell phone, clothes, new purse. Like $1000 on just stuff she don't need. She tells me that she wants to move out and us live seperate and that she thinks it would help us (told me this 2 weeks ago). She just started making good money working at this bar, before would work as a CNA helping old people for like 20 hours a week, so never really had money.
My problem that I know of is I get a thought in my head then start dissecting it and the way things could be and try to figure people out. IDK if she is just being hood rich and not thinking right because of the money, has another guy and is keeping me on the back burner just in case, really is actually trying to help herself (I guess she paid off one of her credit cards this week that she was behind on), or just wants things to be done. IDK if I should just hang out and not talk to her, let her start to miss me and come crawling back, just have fun for a while and not worry about her, if I should not hook up with another girl if the situation comes up, or what I should do. Half the people I've talked to about it said to just hang out, not talk to her and let her miss me, and she'll be back. The other half tells me to go out and get laid.
The thing is I really do love this girl. I was actually planning on getting her a ring when I got my new job and can support us better. What should I think about her not coming to get her stuff last night? She wants to come back at some point/ she's looking for free storage? All it really is, is just some clothes, snowboard, spare key for her car, pictures,stuff like that. Saturday she took her scrapbook (which has tons of pics of us) and her camera (same thing). Tanya also said that she's sleeping with this pink teddy bear I won her at a carnival 5 years ago. Also the last text she sent me yesterday was I will always love you. I never responded. IDK what to make of this whole situation. Also she moved here from NJ for me (we met in school, she was going to school for nursing before she moved here, and since has stopped because of money) all she has is her clothes and car. I own everything in our apt so with out me all she has is Tanya's couch. I also feel that she was the one that walked out on me and my dog, which I like he's a kid.What do you think? sorry for the long read/rant.
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