Are you saying five.slow is screwed too since he has already been driving his with the loose backlash?:shrug:
Backlash may or may not have been my issue but according to my installer it's the gears themselves.
Do you agree that this sound is more intrusive than harmful to the rear end (if supposedly installed generally right)?
well you can still fix backlash, but once you driven on the gears you cant fix the pattern it 1st worn in. some people are lucky enough to be able to reset the gears an backlash an get rid of the noise, but most of the time the Damage is done an the noise will never go away. but on the plus side it wont do anything to harm the rearend just make noise unless everything is way off then you could have early gear wear.
Assuming this is correct and my shop is blowing smoke up my ass
Will this harm my car/rear end other than sounding annoying?
well yes an no. chances are its not going to harm anything. but if you paid the shop to do a gear install including parts an labor. then they need to fix this. if you bought the parts an had the shop install them you may be SOL because shops only have to warrenty the work an not the faulty parts.