The VISA route worked. I received an email from Flossy that they cancelled the order, but said that they would have happily cancelled it if I contacted them. Then the email said "do not reply to this email, this mailbox is not monitored!"
What a joke. I wasted at least 3 hours screwing around with this, but at least I got my money back and didn't get a $100 paper weight.
It sucks because early on they seemed good, and then probably got too ahead of themselves. That's the problem with a lot of these small online automotive parts related companies. You see it a lot in the retrofit HID world too.