It was my fault for responsibly drive my drunk wife home.
If you were over the limit, then yes.
If you were under the limit and impaired, then yes.
If you were under the limit and/or not impaired, then no.
By the way, people who are under the influence of alcohol are not good judges of whether or not they are too impaired to operate a motor vehicle.
I am glad your life did not get destroyed by a DUI; however, it appears that you have not learned the central lesson of the experience based on your argumentative nature.
You appear to be still blaming law enforcement when your decisions resulted in the situation. Had you had nothing to drink and then gotten behind the wheel, none of this would have occurred.
By the way, how much did you attorney cost? The other lesson you likely learned as a part of this experience is that being accused of a DUI is really expensive and easily avoidable.