Okay guys I'm getting married in November. I'm actually already married but our actually wedding is coming up. At your weddings did you spend extra money on food,dj's,drinks etc? I see no need for food and drinks. I just want to get the wedding done with and don't to spend another 2grand on "extras". My wife is stressing since she is trying to pay for this all by herself since I'm saving up for a house. Should I fork up the money for this extra stuff or just skip doing this stuff? My father-in-law isn't going to help so scratch that.
What to do about wedding extras?
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I didnt want any of the extras at my wedding. My wife did so we forked up the extra cash for the photographer, dj, food drink, etc. In the end it made her happy and thats the only thing that matters. In the long run its just another day and after its said and done no one will remember the dj, food, drink, etc. they will remember what matters and thats two people came together to be joined as one. just my 2 cents though.
i think its worth it, but you don't have to go overboard. example, have a pig roast, a friend dj (ask around), and get a couple kegs. at least in our circle of friends, if there's no music or booze, it's not a wedding.
We'll at the place my wife already booked you can't bring in your own food or drinks.
So you are planning to not serve any food or drinks? That's pretty bad etiquette. I wouldn't consider food and drink "extras" :dw:. You should maybe consider doing hor d'oeuvres and a less expensive wine/champagne or something like that if you don't want to serve a whole meal.
If you aren't going to serve food or have a DJ for dancing there's really no point in having a reception at all.
Book somewhere else cause that's a ****ing joke..
Alot of weddings I've been to bought kegs and let you pay for cocktails, offsetting all but a few hundred dollars.. if you don't want food drinks or a dj, what is the point of a reception at all?? You could just have the ceremony and jet
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Unless you want your guests - friends, and new family members included - to think your a cheap ass, you need to have food and drink provided, somehow. How you do that is up to you, but it needs to at least be offered.
Alright guess I'll do the food,drinks
What would you expect people to do if you aren't going to provide food, drinks or a DJ? Stand around? You don't have to spend a crazy amount of money to make your reception fun.
To me i go to weddings and my gift almost serves as an entry fee to get smashed
Do you plan on having a large group ? If it's a really small gathering you could just go to a restaurant after the ceremony, you should pay for it though. A larger group, rent a hall and have it catered. Guests usually give gifts and if they know you are saving for a house it will probably be cash, hopefully you'll get enough to cover the cost of the wedding and have some extra to put towards the house.
We'll I think we invited 50 people so I guess doing the catering will have to do. With the way I'm thinking and trying to save for other things are a little more important like house,bills etc
Then go to the courthouse or just have a ceremony and that's it. Not really a reception if there isn't food/drink/music
Pissing your wife off and making her feel like her desire to have a nice wedding reception is not worth your money is not a good way to start married life.
One particular "extra" that you should pay for and do your research to make sure you get your moneys worth on is a good photographer. Maybe even two. The wedding day will pass, you will forget many details about the day over time but great pictures can bring memories back.
Food and drink is not an extra in my mind, it is an absolute requirement for a reception.
Food and drink is not an extra in my mind, it is an absolute requirement for a reception.
It sucks giant camel cod. I was in a friend's wedding back in the spring and there was no booze, nor pretty bridesmaids. It was a drag. I ended up going elsewhere to get drunk later on that night because the reception was so terrible.
To the OP, cater the event. Like mentioned above, hor d'oeuvres may be a good idea.
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