Why did you agree to a governmental/financial/religious contract that more than half the time doesn't work out AND favors the woman if it fails?
Government, finances and religion were not given a single thought to my marriage. Wife and I are not very religious people. We both work and make equal money (she might be slightly ahead of me, I think). We both have assets in our own names (no joint ownership or co-signing on anything). The government portion is what it is. You keep focusing on the POTENTIAL negatives, and that's on you! Divorces are the result of people marrying the wrong person. IF you marry the right person, there is a lot of benefits from the government. Namely, if something happens to me, my wife is the default beneficiary.
Why are you hung up on this topic? Everyone has their own beliefs and what's important to them throughout life. If you're trying to convince your partner that marriage isn't for you, then you're with the wrong partner. Just look at the other thread you started, there are a lot of people in there saying marriage doesn't make sense to them. I'm sure there are females out there who feel the same way.