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Smart guy
Good advice
OP, I went down this road about twenty plus years ago. Dating a woman with two kids about the same age. I recommend learning how to communicated clearly and effectively and learning how to listen between the lines if you want to keep her in your life.
To be perfectly honest, I did a very poor job of both at that time and ended up losing what could have been great relationship.
I have to ask, did you present the request to miss the event in a carefully considered manner or did you just hit her with it on short notice? Presentation is everything in a relationship. And short'ish notice can get a response that you will not expect, but will have to deal with.
Effectively you are her husband and the children's father. Sounds like you have accepted that role and are a truly standup guy. I think I would let this one go, take the kid to the event, tell her that you realize that you didn't give her enough notice and then use your giving nature to get something you want further down the road.
Call it an investment in your continued relationship. Just remember that investments should be cashed in at the appropriate moment.
**** no to all of this.
Run.
OP, I went down this road about twenty plus years ago. Dating a woman with two kids about the same age. I recommend learning how to communicated clearly and effectively and learning how to listen between the lines if you want to keep her in your life.
To be perfectly honest, I did a very poor job of both at that time and ended up losing what could have been great relationship.
I have to ask, did you present the request to miss the event in a carefully considered manner or did you just hit her with it on short notice? Presentation is everything in a relationship. And short'ish notice can get a response that you will not expect, but will have to deal with.
Effectively you are her husband and the children's father. Sounds like you have accepted that role and are a truly standup guy. I think I would let this one go, take the kid to the event, tell her that you realize that you didn't give her enough notice and then use your giving nature to get something you want further down the road.
Call it an investment in your continued relationship. Just remember that investments should be cashed in at the appropriate moment.
Doesn't really help OP, but good advice to all - lock it in when you have something coming up. Sooner the better. If it's a big car thing that I know I don't want to miss, I tell my wife about it weeks or even months out. I'm not a dick about it, but I don't "ask" either. Then a few weeks out I start with the "don't forgot I'm planning to do x". Works great for me and gives her time to plan something if she wants.
Your answer is in the first two words of your post.
'BEEN DATING" As in past tense. Tell her all her crap stops right the **** now or you are gone. Then start seeing at least one other woman with NO KIDS!
Make sure she "finds out" about it. She will get the message that she is easily replaced and quit with her crap or you will be gone. If she doesn't be prepared to vanish.
Life is way too short to spend even a tiny portion of it being miserable.
BTW guys, I am going to the track. Just wanted some feedback I guess
I'll never understand why guys get involved with women with kids. Thats rule number 1 in my book of NEVER to do. Ever.