So you married guys....

[RDJ]

Pretty much...but typically you have a guy that works and supports the wife. The court believes that he should continue supporting her.

Not sure how your state works, but I know a few guys that are paying a couple grand a month in alimony FOR LIFE.

And that scares the crap out of me.

if you don't want to pay alimony .. don't let her quit work. it's pretty simply really. when both couples work alimony is not awarded, if there are kids involved it is child support only.

I have a hard time believing that he had to pay alimony for life. since most of the time it is pay alimony until she has a chance to get a job. if schooling is involved alimony will usually include the time she is in school. alimony stops if she gets remarried. you can most likely get it stopped anytime her income is enough to support herself. it's also possible that is not alimony but payments for something marital that he kept.

 

[RDJ]

Because blow up dolls can't give head.

yes they can. has been around since 2017 LOL World’s first ORAL sex robot with 'toe-curling suction' unveiled

Not sure if inheritance is something the court considers since it isn't something that you earned. Might look into that. They can ask for anything though.

Here inheritance is about the only thing that is NOT community property. You get to keep it all.

I have not been able to find a state where inheritance is considered community property. They all seem to have inheritance separate. where you have to be careful is in combining inheritance into marital assets, for example if you buy a house while married and use an inheritance as all or part of the down payment, that portion you use is converted to marital property and if you get divorced she gets half. so if you get an inheritance you will be much better off putting it away under your name only

 

[CompOrange04GT]

I think it goes both ways..

Like in this thread, so many guys “ oh marriage is the right thing .. it’s the best.. can’t believe you wouldn’t want to do”

The thought will always run through your mind .. “ man ... but freedom sounds so good sometimes “

And on the other token.. single guys.. love the freedom, but sure .. having a go to always there for you would be nice.

It’s just which life you choose is best for you. Me for instance I chronically date.. because I want someone but then the minute I settle down, I miss the freedom. Which we then split because I shouldn’t be thinking things like that

 

[Zemedici]

The other downside is failure. Roughly 50% or maybe a bit above of all marriages fail. I have failed at enough things in life and do not need to add to that list. But I still don't get why marriage is a necessary thing if your relationship is already good and firing on all cylinders. What's going to make it better by inviting Uncle Sam and religion into it?

See that’s all about mindset. I don’t go into things thinking I’m gonna fail. I’m gonna own that shit. Ya know?

 

[aoc racer]

Just from reading the first page it sounds like marriage isn’t for you. But that’s ok. You like your privacy, time alone and you have a fear of losing what you worked hard for. This doesn’t sound like you are ready for a commitment like marriage.

 

[03terminator77]

If I get married it will be without a government contract and most likely in another country where we do not have to sign any legal documents.

 

[me32]

Because blow up dolls can't give head.

Neither do most wives.

Head all the way up to the honey moon then its gone.

 

[lOOKnGO]

See that’s all about mindset. I don’t go into things thinking I’m gonna fail. I’m gonna own that shit. Ya know?

I consider my 1st marriage my biggest failure. When two people are involved, you are not in control. Either one can sabotage.
I would relive the pain again, to have what I do now. If I knew then what I know now, I would have never married the first one. 20 and dumb, only once!

 

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[9397SVTs]

Neither do most wives.

Head all the way up to the honey moon then its gone.

I'm not sure if "most" is accurate. Regardless, this does not apply to me. I put in the work to find the right woman.

Dating and dating for the purpose of finding a wife are two very different things, in my opinion. The end product is a direct result of the time, effort, and research, if you will, that you put into the process. Time, I would say, is the biggest hindrance. Early on, every one is on their best behavior and doing everything they can to get the other person to like them. This, at some point, will either change a little or change a lot. Then, you will start to get a better understanding of who the other person is. But, most people don't wait long enough before they marry or move in together, it seems.

A lot of "experts" suggest dating for at least two years before marriage. This allows time to measure compatibility, which is what dating is all about. Does this mean you spend two years with every person? Of course not. Most dates won't have a second. Other dating periods may go a couple/few weeks to months. One of the bigger problems today with failed marriages is second marriages that involve minor children. Those seem to have a 70%-80% failure rate.

Know what you want/don't want and go get it.

 

[faster1]

There really is no explanation for why the government should be involved. Let's be clear the government gets involved for only one reason; to profit from it. That said, laws concerning alimony are needed to protect the spouse and children being left behind who have no way to support themselves because of the marriage. The judicial system and lawyers have made a disaster for those involved and also they make lot of money from divorce; there's that profit thing again.

People from the dawn of time have decided they want to create their own standard of righteousness and every civilization since has struggled with immorality, amorality, selfishness and murder. Everyone has their own idea of right and wrong. Many people don't believe in God who set a standard for righteousenss. If that is the case someone tell me who gets to set the standard because all of us doing our own thing for centuries hasn't ever worked out and we are not learning from it.

Marriage gives a legitimacy to the union and children in the eyes of the state for reasons of responsibility to those involved and it's the ideology behind that word that is important. Marriage was intended for a man and a woman to form a union that lasted for life but our compass of right and wrong is so screwed up it is amazing anyone can commit to that. So we're back to that pesky God thing again who said He would help us if we let Him.

Do it your way or do it God's way... Your choice and I will fight for your right to that choice...

Mikey

 

[VegasMichael]

See that’s all about mindset. I don’t go into things thinking I’m gonna fail. I’m gonna own that shit. Ya know?

I don't go into things unless my risk analysis tells me I have an extreme advantage of profiting.

 

[VegasMichael]

yes they can. has been around since 2017 LOL World’s first ORAL sex robot with 'toe-curling suction' unveiled



I have not been able to find a state where inheritance is considered community property. They all seem to have inheritance separate. where you have to be careful is in combining inheritance into marital assets, for example if you buy a house while married and use an inheritance as all or part of the down payment, that portion you use is converted to marital property and if you get divorced she gets half. so if you get an inheritance you will be much better off putting it away under your name only

That's a good point. I hadn't thought of that.

 

[jeffh81]

Instead of bitching about marriage do the rental thing. Rent a wife by the hour, day or month. Get tired of her choose another one. Last I heard it was legal in Vegas and some other areas. You gonna pay for it one way or the other

 

[VegasMichael]

Instead of bitching about marriage do the rental thing. Rent a wife by the hour, day or month. Get tired of her choose another one. Last I heard it was legal in Vegas and some other areas. You gonna pay for it one way or the other

Vegas is one of the few counties in Nevada where prostitution is illegal but it's not difficult to find if that's your thing. Roughly half of all strippers you meet in bars will do extra paid time with you. Not my thing though. I like smart and funny women who are successful and don't want anything from me except my company.

 

[jeffh81]

Vegas is one of the few counties in Nevada where prostitution is illegal but it's not difficult to find if that's your thing. Roughly half of all strippers you meet in bars will do extra paid time with you. Not my thing though. I like smart and funny women who are successful and don't want anything from me except my company.

They all just want your company. Some just cost more to get it

 

[tvspower]

22 years of marriage in a couple weeks. My wife truly is my better half. She is my best friend, and was long before we said "I do".

I remember standing before friends and family, saying my vows, and being terryfied. Looking back I cannot image what I would do without her.

From time to time I still officiate wedding ceremonies. I'm curious though. I refuse to perform a service without at least three months of premarital counseling. I ask a lot of questions that the couple must answer. However, the answers are not for me. I give them things to reflect upon on their own and together.

A joke went around for a while because I had a record for destroying engagements and relationships. My reply, "If you cannot survive three months of counseling together, your marriage will more than likely fail".

So far all of the marriages I was honored to officiate are still intact. That isn't to say there haven't been hard times. Hard times are going to happen.

I am not a fan of divorce, though I have counseled many through it. I have sat in courtrooms and listened to people I love tear one anther apart. On rare occasion I have even advised divorce. Divorce is generally not the answer though. Selfishness and pride is usually the reason, and you have to get out of the way to make it work. In marriage, and in life; everything is not about you.

I am still a guy though. I screw up daily. My wife has come to understand that there is no such creature as an adult male. We are just big children, and normally need a babysitter.

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Well said... lets us know in another 10 yrs....

 

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[earico]

Not offended. I think you're probably right. Either the prenup or I marry a gal with megabucks. In which case I will gladly sign a prenup so her assets are protected. But if I do that it's all a money game isn't it? A financial/governmental contract.

You're what's making it a money game. Honestly if I was in your position and raised with your lifestyle I would probably do the same to a degree.

I come from almost nothing and am self made. When I started dating my wife we had been friends for a couple years. I had just quit my job and started my self-employed business. I had also just divorced my 1st wife and had to cash in my 401k to settle with her. A 401k that I had been contributing to for almost 10 years. At one point I had $5 in my checking account and it had to last 2 weeks until a check came in. I had a 2.5 and 4 year old at the time too. That was in 2005. My self-employment survived through the recession and now fast forward to today. I make over 1/4 mil a year and I told my wife to stay home and not work. She hasn't worked in 4 years and is happier than she's ever been. Because we are so close her happiness makes me even happier. We've had some hard times that have tested us but we always come out of it stronger and closer. I can't explain what it feels like to not fear anything but death. With her I know we can do and will survive anything. I honestly don't give a shit about our assets or money. I could live in a damn trailer park with this woman and be just as happy. It's something that I can't explain enough for you to understand. I can only tell you it exists and that it's possible. So maybe one day you can find the same bond with another. Life is short and all I care about is her and my kids. Money and all other material things are just props in this game of life. You get one life...make the most of it.